I recently made a critical decision in my life that will have far reaching consequences in my personal life and career. What was interesting was the reaction I got when I interacted with the various people in my personal and professional life. The reactions ranged from outright shock and utter disbelief to encouragement and support. I have realised that as I get older my capacity to take risks is also evolving. The nature of risks I contemplate and take today are very different from those I had a decade ago. The level of risk taking is getting smaller. There is a lot more at stake today and there are far more people involved.
Reflecting on the experience thus far I observed the following.
KEY STAKEHOLDERS – You need to identify the key stakeholders in your life. Everyone is important but who are the people who really matter. Get their buy-in and support. Afterward you can live with what everyone else has to say. In my case one of the key stakeholders was my wife. Once she gave me her full support it was a done deal. Do you have a stakeholder map in your life? Just kidding but who are the most important stakeholders for you. These could be spouse, partner kids, any other dependants, colleagues at work.
YOU DECIDE – You can get advice every step of the way on the journey but you will have to take the decision. It will be you who ultimately has to make sense of everything. It will be your life that will be impacted most. If there is one person that most people are ready to give, it’s advice. If only it were possible to go back to them when things don’t work out and claim compensation for bad advice. Sorry mate. No such luck! Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach. – Tom Robbins
MOVE ON – When you have made your decision, move on and live with the consequences. Get going! This is the nature of life. You have made the action. Now you will see the reaction! I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do. – Learnado Da Vinci
THE POSSIBILITIES – When you make your decisions, remember there will be consequences and be ready for them. Your decision will open up possibilities. Some of the possibilities will be relatively straightforward and easy to predict but others will be totally unexpected. Here is an example. You might for instance decide to leave your job. That means that you will obviously lose out the benefits you were receiving at work. However, this decision could impact on your personal relationships in some way. For instance things could become more strained as finances become squeezed. Stop thinking in terms of limitations and start thinking in terms of possibilities – Terry Josephson
BELIEVE – Believe in what you want and plan to do. Believe in yourself and your ability. Believe in your support system to help you deal with things. Believe in your God to stay by you always. No one can give you the belief and conviction you need to have in yourself. It is within you and must be cultivate. Work on your talents and idea. As your abilities and confidence improve that will also affect the belief. For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don’t believe, no proof is possible. – Stuart Chase.
EXECUTE – When you make a decision, execute! Do not linger in indecision, in limbo. Proceed or retreat. Do something! You will never know till you try. I don’t know anyone who achieved their goals and dreaming by doing nothing. Take time to deliberate; but when the time for action arrives, stop thinking and go on. – Napoleon